The One Year Plan
A Love and Logic Solution
1. Love and Logic parents remember that parents
can’t teach for teachers, and teachers can’t parent for
parents. Remember that teachers and parents can’t learn for
kids no matter how much we love them.
2. Show the same amount of love for your children, regardless of their
success in school. Show sadness rather than anger when they have trouble
at school.
3. Expect your children to do their share of the chores at home.
4. Spend some time each day talking, with excitement, about your work
and your day. They will want to imitate you and will soon begin to
talk about school and their day.
5. Take turns reading to each other every day.
6. Have your children teach you something they have learned at school.
Do this once per week.
7. Encourage your children to do things that “charge their batteries.”
Encourage them to try many different activities as a way of discovering
interests and talents. Remind them that they will build their careers
around their talents, not around their weaknesses.
8. Provide a time and place for homework. Expect that they will study.
Allow them to either study by writing the assignments or think hard
about them for a reasonable amount of time.
A. If they decide
to study by thinking instead of by writing or reading, have them think
of a plan for explaining
it to the teacher.
B. Support the teacher
to handle this.
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Don’t fight with children over homework.
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Don’t fight with the teachers over the grade or consequences.
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Tell your children that you will love them regardless of their grades,
or the number of years it takes to complete
a grade.
9. Don’t pay your children for good grades and don’t punish
for bad grades. Be excited about the good grades and sad, for the
children, about their bad grades.
10. Have your children bring home papers.
A. Look at the right
answers instead of the wrong ones.
B. Don’t correct
the wrong answers; leave this for the teacher.
C. Have your children explain
the reasons for the answers being right. If they don’t know,
give them three choices:
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You cheated?
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You tried hard?
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You are getting smarter in that subject?
11. Expect this Love and Logic program to take about one year before
you see good
Results. Remember that children who have a hard time at school need
to get away from it for a while each day. More homework and problems
at home about school won’t help.
A. Don’t complain
to teachers that they should give this child more homework.
B. Use this
program instead and you will see amazing results in one year.
C. Fight with
your children and their teachers about homework and the problem will
still be there in years to come.
12. Love and Logic parents remember that highly successful people
put most of their
Efforts into their talents and maintain minimal standards on everything
else.